Emotionally Focused connection for logical minds

Let's be honest - you've always been pretty smart. Science and math just made sense to you in school, and it was clear that you'd thrive in a career harnessing those skills. Deep down, you've always thought of yourself as a nerd, and you were delighted when you found an amazing partner who accepted and appreciated your inner nerd, because they had things they were nerdy about, too!

You landed a great job, and maybe even decided to create a tiny human, or two. On paper, things are going great, but then why does it feel like you and your partner are so stuck?

It seems like you're having the same, painful argument over and over again. The things you try seem to backfire about 40% of the time - you've always been good at solving puzzles, but you can't seem to crack this pattern… Your partner means the world to you, but they seem to be getting angrier and more distant by the day. It's starting to feel frustrating and demoralizing. You yearn to find your way back to the joy, love, and levity you used to share, but you're worried it might not work out.

If you're really honest with yourself, you are feeling lost in ways you never have before.

I get how painful and frustrating this can be. Love is confusing! Sometimes it seems like relationships follow some stochastic randomness that is impossible to predict. But, actually, guess what - this is NOT random chance! We now understand the neuroscience behind negative patterns that couples get stuck in, and we have identified ways to help couples start to untangle these patterns.

You don't need to roll the D20 on the future of your relationship - I've got a road map, and I'm here to help.

I specialize in working with couples with one or both members in the quantitative professions, like research STEM, research, healthcare, and tech. As a former Ecologist, and the daughter, sister, and partner of STEM professionals, I know how logical minds think, and I can help these confusing emotions actually start to make sense, and bridge the gap between two partners who are struggling to communicate.

I have advanced training and certification in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, which has been rigorously studied over decades and shown to be effective for couples just like you - yes, the nerdy couples, too! It draws from what we know about communication patterns in adult relationships and the field of Attachment Psychology to help us map out how you and your partner get stuck. Once we understand the pattern you get stuck in, we can then start to identify the hidden emotions underlying that pattern. We can then deeply understand what is happening for each partner, and work towards building a new pattern of loving and meaningful connection.

Hear Rose explain more about how EFT works in this video (8min 42 sec): EFT EXPLANATION VIDEO

Let’s do this!

If you’ve read this far, it’s because you’re ready to start working to make things different. I know you're smart, so I'll be honest with you - high-quality, life-changing couples therapy is not easy. It takes an investment of time, energy, and courage. Taking an hour out of your schedule to "talk about your feelings" with your partner might not seem like the most important place to put your energy, but the couples I've seen who dedicate the time to dig in and do the work gain knowledge and insight that serve them for the rest of their lives.

If you and your partner are ready to start to untangle your negative patterns, I would love to connect with you! I offer free 30-min phone consultations to learn about your relationship, answer your questions, and determine if my approach would be a good fit.

If you're ready to get started, contact me today to set up a consultation!