The Sleep Blog!

The Sleep Blog!

Many of us struggle with getting a good night's sleep on a regular basis. This can be a common concern that I hear from my clients, especially since sleep deprivation can have a negative impact on our overall physical and emotional well-being.

The good news is that there are things we can do to help improve our ability to get a good night's sleep. These habits are known as "sleep hygiene." What follows is a list of the techniques and habits recommended by sleep experts, and that I have also found to be helpful for my clients.

There are a lot of ideas here - I wanted this blog post to be a somewhat comprehensive deep dive, rather than a "best of" list. This is because what works for some people may not work for others. It can, however, be somewhat overwhelming, so I recommend choosing a few to get started with, and add on from there if sleep remains elusive.

I Drank a Cup of Tea Outside Today, and Now All My Problems are Gone!

I Drank a Cup of Tea Outside Today, and Now All My Problems are Gone!

Well, no.... just kidding about the "all my problems are gone" part. (Yeah... that was just to get you to click here and keep reading..... sorry, but can you blame me? It's the internet, and I'm up against cat videos!)

But, in all reality, even though my problems still remain, taking the time to drink a cup of tea outside, and dip into some mindfulness, actually has helped me to view all my problems with a renewed perspective.

Expressive Reflections - A New Year's Collage

Expressive Reflections - A New Year's Collage

Usually, during the days surrounding the New Year, my mind turns to reflection. I tend to be pretty serious about this - I fill my journal with aspirations for the upcoming year, I seek out conversations about the highlights of the past year and hopes and dreams about the next, and I usually plan some quiet time to reflect and seal my intentions for the next cycle around the sun. But for some reason this year, things felt different. These reflections did not emerge the way they often do. I’m not sure why, but I did not seem to have the focus or the patience to introspect to the extent that I often do - I could not find the words.

This did not feel right. New Year’s came and went, and I started to feel like this glorious opportunity was slipping away. What was happening? Was I really going to let the cusp of 2019 come and go without my customary ritual? I knew I would need to try something different this year. My mind then turned to expressive arts - this is what I share with clients at Redwood Counseling when we are sitting with a difficult idea, and words are not forthcoming. Then it seemed clear - why not dip into some Expressive Arts for myself around the idea of the New Year, and see what would emerge!

How to Get the Most out of Your Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

How to Get the Most out of Your Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is an investment of your time, money, and emotional energy. Of course you want to make sure you get the best results! Perhaps you yearn for more peaceful communication, deeper and more meaningful connections, or increased intimacy and closeness. Whatever your goals, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) ultimately helps you and your partner to feel better in your relationship.

A lot of the EFT process rests on finding the right therapist with excellent training to guide you and your partner, but there is a lot YOU can do to make sure you are getting the most out the process! Here are some tips to keep in mind as you start your EFT couples therapy.