Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples
Sometimes, it just feels like you and your partner have the same argument over and over again. Sure, you’ve always had disagreements, but you found a way to work through them in the past. But now, you’re starting to feel like you don’t know what to do. It just feels like the more you try to connect with your partner, the more distant or critical they start to feel. Perhaps this conflict has arisen slowly, or perhaps it’s being intensified by an especially stressful time in your lives. Maybe there are even old wounds in the relationship that never fully healed, creating a wall where intimacy used to be. Whatever it is, it’s now gotten to the point that you’re both getting so frustrated that you’re considering reaching out for help. You used to feel so safe and comfortable with this person - you chose him or her for a reason, and deep down, this person is still the most important person in the world to you. But it’s feeling hard to find those parts of your connection now. I know how tough that can be!
I love helping couples to find their ways out of these conflicts and build stronger bonds. I use a therapy approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT starts from the premise that we all want meaningfully interactions with our partners, but sometimes we can get caught in negative patterns that push us apart. These negative patterns can be incredibly painful. Often, it feels like one partner yearns so much to connect, they will try anything to reach their partner, but that person often pulls away, due to feeling criticized or maybe even overwhelmed. Patterns can look different for each couple, so I will help you and your partner identify what this pattern looks for you. Once we identify the pattern, we can start to understand what is driving the pattern - what are the emotions and thoughts that cause us to respond to each other the way we do? From there, we work towards changing that pattern in a lasting way, so that you and your partner can build deep, meaningful, and healthy ways to connect.
Working with couples is one of my deepest passions as a therapist, and I absolutely love helping couples to re-build the spark and connection they used to enjoy, and even adding depth and increased trust and connection to their relationship, beyond what they ever dreamed possible. As one of the few Marriage and Family Therapists in the Cincinnati area with advanced training in EFT, I am uniquely positioned to help guide couples in this rewarding work.
EFT is one of only a few approaches to couples therapy that has earned the title of being Evidence Based - this means it has been rigorously researched and found to be effective in clinical studies. For more information, visit the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) website.
I welcome couples from all walks of life, cultures, sexual orientations, and gender identities.
To learn how to get the most out of your Couples Therapy, check out my blog article on the topic.
For more information on Premarital Couples Counseling, click here.